Why Chasing Wholeness is a Trap: How Letting Go Unleashes True Expansion

Releasing tension and integrating our fragmented selves can lead to authentic growth and inner stability. | Intention: Consolidation | Affirmation: “I Am the Width I Seek.”

Oct 02, 2024

A seemingly endless, undulating road stretches through a semi-arid landscape with dry, reddish sand dunes and sparse vegetation on either side. The asphalt appears to ripple like a wave as it winds through the Northern Cape, leading towards the vast, open expanse of the Kalahari Desert. — Endless Horizons: The Road from Upington Unfolds into the Vast Kalahari Desert" — captured by Jay Siegmann.

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Hey there, dearest Lionies,

Have you ever noticed how the body mirrors our inner experiences? As if every tightened muscle and shallow breath is a reflection of the tension we carry within. When I feel fragmented and out of alignment, my physical posture reveals it all—shoulders hunched, jaw clenched, my body contracting into itself. Today, I’m exploring how consolidating those fragmented parts of myself can create space and stability, much like finding ease through the Alexander Technique.

The Alexander Technique, for those who aren’t familiar, is a way of undoing tension patterns and allowing the body to return to its natural state of balance. It’s not so different from what I’m trying to achieve emotionally and mentally: letting go of outdated habits, beliefs, and reactions that constrict my inner world. When I find alignment and ease in my body, I discover a similar spaciousness within. And that’s the essence of today’s intention—Consolidation.

Through my many traumatic experiences, my sense of self became disjointed, like a scattered puzzle. Yet, piece by piece, I’m learning to bring those parts together. Today’s affirmation, "I Am the Width I Seek," reminds me that the expansiveness I long for isn’t out there, somewhere external, but already within me. It’s like experiencing the subtle yet profound shift in the Alexander Technique: when I let go of tension, I naturally expand into the space I’ve always been meant to occupy.

With this in mind, here’s today’s intention and affirmation, guiding us through this journey of becoming more whole, more aligned:

Intention: Consolidation

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Definition of Consolidation

Consolidation refers to the act of making something more solid, unified, or stable. In a personal context, it involves integrating scattered parts of oneself—be it emotions, memories, or experiences—into a more cohesive whole.

In Buddhist teachings, there isn't a direct term for "consolidation," but related concepts can be found in the idea of samadhi (concentration or meditative absorption), where mental focus and stability are achieved through mindfulness and awareness of the present moment. It also resonates with the understanding of the five aggregates (skandhas)—form, sensation, perception, mental formations, and consciousness—as interconnected elements that compose the human experience. Recognizing the interplay of these aggregates can lead to a more unified sense of self.

Inspirations for Achieving Consolidation

Integrative Shadow Work
Delve into the unconscious parts of your psyche to acknowledge and embrace repressed emotions or traits. This practice involves facing aspects of yourself that you've ignored or denied, facilitating healing and unity. It parallels the Buddhist practice of mindfulness (sati), where observing one's thoughts and feelings without judgment leads to greater self-understanding.
Creating Personal Mandalas
Design and craft personal mandalas to symbolize the different facets of your life coming together. This artistic expression serves as a meditative practice, helping you visualize and consolidate various elements of your identity. In Buddhism, mandalas represent the universe and are used as tools for meditation, embodying the idea of unity and wholeness.
Engaging in Mindful Movement
Participate in activities like walking meditation or Tai Chi, which synchronize the mind and body through deliberate, conscious movement. This harmonization fosters a sense of wholeness and presence, consolidating physical sensations with mental awareness. Such practices are rooted in the Buddhist emphasis on mindfulness in every action.

Systemic Question for Reflection on Consolidation

Which fragmented or overlooked aspects of myself can I bring together, and what specific practices will help me integrate these parts to achieve greater inner unity?

Hint: To engage with this question, start by identifying any feelings, memories, or aspects of yourself that you might have neglected or suppressed. Consider areas where you feel disconnected or inconsistent in your life. Reflect on specific practices—like journaling, mindfulness meditation, or creative expression—that could help you explore and integrate these overlooked parts, fostering a greater sense of inner unity.

Affirmation: I Am the Width I Seek

I am the embodiment of the expansiveness I yearn for. With each mindful breath, I nurture the fertile ground of my inner world, allowing outdated beliefs and habits to transform into nourishment for new possibilities. I recognize that I am not separate from the width I desire, but rather the living manifestation of its potential.

In this present moment, I create a welcoming space for the Mystery to initiate and sustain my sense of expansiveness. My completeness is not measured by external validations, but by how authentically I remain true to my intrinsic wholeness, even amidst life's challenges.

I am learning to speak the language of my soul, embracing the quiet undercurrents of my being. By choosing to live a more authentic life within the conventional world, I honor the hidden paths that lead to my truest self. I trust in the cyclical nature of growth, allowing aspects of my life to bloom, fade, and renew without resistance.

With unwavering dedication, I move towards the expansiveness I was meant for, remaining flexible and at ease with my natural flow. I stand fully present in this realm, offering companionship to my everyday experiences while staying loyal to my unique qualities.

I am the universe experiencing itself through my distinct perspective, deeply grateful for this opportunity to explore life through the divinity of my perceptive body. In recognizing my true nature as boundless awareness, I embrace the freedom that comes from knowing I am interconnected with all that is and ever will be.

What shifted for me today is this: the realization that consolidation and expansiveness are not opposites but companions. Like the release in the Alexander Technique, where a simple adjustment can open up a whole new experience of space and freedom, consolidation isn’t about restricting or narrowing—it's about strengthening. And from that strength, true expansiveness flows.

So what happens when we embrace our inherent width, allowing it to guide us through the fragmented parts of our past? I find that I become more flexible, less reactive, and more in tune with my inner rhythm. It’s a kind of freedom that no external validation can provide—because it’s already within.

Closing Thoughts

Take a moment today to check in with yourself. How does your body feel? Is there a part of you—emotional, mental, or physical—that feels out of alignment? See if you can release just a bit of that tension. Notice how your internal world expands as you let go. This is what I wish for us all: to know that the width we seek is our natural state, always available to us when we let go and allow ourselves to unfold.

With love and presence,
Jay